Inspired In Action

Your Most Important Relationship
One of the most important relationships in your life is the one with yourself.

I know you’ve heard this before, in a few different forms.

“You are the best example of how to love you.”

“No one else can love you until you love yourself.”

And there’s more to it.

What about the relationship between your spirit (soul) and your mind (ego)? How well is that relationship going?

This is the most important relationships to grow, as it affects everything in your life … Everything.

Your Mind (ego) works very hard. It tries to figure everything out for you. It’s what it’s good at. And yet, when it tries to do the job of Spirit (soul), it cannot. Mind gets frustrated as it is doing all it can think of. You feel like you are banging your head against a wall. You are “racking your brain”.

The fear is that if Mind allows Spirit to come in and do its job, the Mind will no longer be needed. Mind hangs on tightly, and speaks as loudly as it possibly can so Spirit cannot be heard.

On the other side, if Spirit came in and was the only one doing all the jobs, no action would be taken. We’d be sitting there blissfully inactive.

Spirit needs Mind. Mind needs Spirit.

The relationship of Spirit and Mind is one of those dualities that bring true balance.

As children, this balance existed effortlessly. Our Spirit (imagination) dreamed up the games. Our Mind put the games into action. Our Spirit allowed us to see the beautiful pies we were baking. Our Mind picked out the perfect mud to mold into our imaginary pie.

The older we grew, the more our Minds were celebrated. Our Mind’s voice grew louder as we wanted to be celebrated. Eventually our Mind’s voice grew so loud, we forgot about our Spirit, and how important its job was too.

The beautiful part of this is that our Spirit never went anywhere. It’s still there, sharing its wisdom, sparking flashes of brilliance and imagination.

The only thing that is needed now is for these two partners, Spirit and Mind, to remember how to communicate … to remember that it was sooooo much fun to play together!

Here are three ways to open up the lines of communication between your Spirit and your Mind.

1. Meditation

The intention of meditation is to quiet your Mind so that your Spirit can be heard. There is no right way to meditate, and there are many ways to meditate. You can use guided meditation CDs. You can use soothing music or sounds. Do you like the sound of water? You can use nature CDs or even the sound of water in the shower.

Experiment and play with various forms of meditation until you find one that feeeeels good to you. As you move into your meditation, remind your Mind to listen carefully as Spirit can and often does share beautiful ideas. That’s where the Mind gets to step up and do what it’s best at … putting things into action.

2. Journaling

Journaling is a great way to open up communication between your Spirit and your Mind. By writing your desires and intentions in your Journal, for example, you are inviting a connection to your Spirit (imagination) and your Mind (consciousness). Ask questions in your Journal. You may not get answers when you are writing, but those answers will come in other times when you are not thinking out your question at all. Writing in your Journal is like plugging your computer into the internet. You are now ready to send and receive.

3. Listening

The truth is your Spirit is continuously communicating with you. It’s simply a matter of listening with the right ears.

Your body sensations are your Spirit communicating with you. You may feel something as simple as “heavy” or “light”. There are other sensations such as a sinking feeling, or butterflies of excitement.

When you get these sensations, listen. Don’t pass them off. They are not your mind messing with you. Listen. The light sensations are saying “yes!” You’re likely on path or heading in the right direction. The heavy sensations are saying “no!” You’re off path. It’s time to tweak and shift until we (your Spirit and the conscious You) feel good again.

Your emotions are also communications from spirit, much like the body sensations. Your emotions could be labeled as light or heavy emotions too, and the same on path or off path interpretation can be used as well. Just keep tweaking and shifting until you feel good again.

As your lines of communication begin to open, you’ll find you can blend these three methods together. As you listen, play with those messages in your Journal and while you meditate.

You will find over time that you become a much better listener, and you’ll have more to play with as you meditate or journal. As you meditate or journal more, you’ll find you hear more as you move through your day to day routines. Creative ideas and solutions will pop up out of seemingly no where.

Your Mind will begin to welcome these communications as it will have more to play with, and it will feeeeeel so much better knowing it doesn’t have to figure everything out. Your Mind just has to do what it does best … put things into action.

Are you ready to nurture the most important relationship in your life? Let your Spirit and Mind play together again.

“Standing in the middle of the road is very dangerous; you get knocked down by traffic from both sides.” ~ Margaret Thatcher

I can’t decide on my career. I don’t know what my passion is. Should I stay or should I go?

There are a select few people who don’t get caught up in the Indecision. Most of us, however, have had questions like these slow us up if not paralyze us.

Sometimes we are forced to make a decision quickly, and spend hours, if not days and years looking back, wondering if we made the right decision.

Having lived on my own since the age of 16, when I graduated high school I was painfully aware that I needed to have a source of income if I was going to survive. I immediately applied to go to secretarial college and took legal secretary. It would get me out there quickly so I could take care of myself.

For years afterwards I lamented about how I should have gone to University rather than secretarial college. I had a knack for math. I could have been a professor or something. Having a University Degree would be far more prestigious and profitable than being a secretary. I harshly judge my decision regularly.

I thought I got it wrong. I thought I blew it.

Has this happened to you? Did life force you to make decisions you look back on with shame or regret?

I’m here to tell you that you can’t get it wrong. You didn’t get it wrong. You’re exactly where you need to be right now. Even if you haven’t tuned in to the gift or ultimate reason for your decision, that’s okay. It will all become clear eventually.

The only thing that can ever get in your way of seeing the true divinity in all that you have done is to continue to judge yourself.

17 years after graduating from secretarial college I finally knew why my decision was exactly what I needed to do.

I hired my first coach by bartering my transcription skills. He introduced me to the Law of Attraction. I learned first hand what coaching was. I learned I had a gift for coaching. I knew it was where I wanted to be.

I never would have found out any of this, and I would not be doing what I sooooo love doing had I not become a secretary.

I could not be serving others with my gifts. I would not have met all the wonderful and absolutely amazing people I have met. I would not be touching the lives I’m so blessed to touch.

How would you be doing things differently if you knew you couldn’t get it wrong? Would you make decision more quickly? Would you stop judging yourself for decisions you’ve already made?

You cannot get it wrong. You didn’t get it wrong.

Now that you’ve chosen this, where do you go from here?

Here are some great questions you can ask to support you with your next Decision (that you can’t get wrong).

• How can you serve others?

• Are there lessons you’ve learned that you can share?

• Are there others in the midst of a similar experience to yours that you can support?

• What are you gifts?

• What do you have fun doing?

No matter where you are in your life, or where you’d like to go, it really is as simple as making a Decision.

You can’t get it wrong.

Or how about this?

You can only get it right.

Velma Gallant, “The Queen of JOY!”, is Whole Life Coach, speaker and author. She is a best-selling co-author with Mark Victor Hansen, Deepak Chopra and Dr. Wayne Dyer in “Wake Up…Live the Life You Love…Finding Personal Freedom”. Velma also writes a weekly e-newsletter which can be found at www.WelcomeChanges.com. You can contact Velma by email at velma@welcomechanges.com, or toll-free at 1-800-992-2863.

“Things work out best for those who make the best of the way things work out.”
~ Unknown

We all do the best we can with what we have. I have said this for years. You may have heard it before too.

When I use this phrase, it is often in the context of how people cope with contrast or manage their lives. We were brought up in our specific environment, and learned the way we survive from our parents, peers and the other important people in our life.

I have used this phrase personally to remove judgment about others who have “hurt” me in one way or another. It does not change what happened or make it okay. It simply allows me to allow them to be where they are without judgment.

There are true gifts in that perspective. I have learned to have compassion for others and for myself with this way of thinking.

Though this is an important and valuable realization, it is not actually the reason why I’m bringing this to your attention.

As I like to do, I have a special twist on this particular phrase that I believe will get the wheels turning and trigger a wonderful flurry of action and in(ner)-action.

Here’s what I would like you to think about.

* Do you do the best you can with what you have?
* Do you do the best you can at your job?
* Do you do the best you can in your relationships?
* Do you do the best you can with your body and with self-care?

How would your life change if you “did the best you could with what you have”?

Imagine the difference!

What if you chose that wherever you are is all right and it can get better?

How does your focus change when you own that statement? How would it feel if you were okay with where you are? Would you do the best you could with what you have and where you are?

For example, is your job not “the one”? Doing the best you can in “this job” may move you to “the one”.

How?

Your focus is no longer on the fact that your job is not “the one”. Your focus is on you being the best you can be. Your focus is on doing the best you can, rather than on what’s not quite right.

Where would this attitude move you?

When you do the best that you can with what you have (and where you are at), you keep the energy moving. You are in action.

When energy is moving, it is magnetic…it is creating. When energy is immobile, you are in essence cutting off your power source. There is no juice going into your Magnet. You are not creating. You are not attracting.

You WANT to move and you WANT to keep moving!

What would it take for you to do the best you can with what you have from where you are at right now?

Velma Gallant, “The Queen of JOY!”, is a Whole Life Coach, speaker and author. She is a best-selling co-author with Mark Victor Hansen, Deepak Chopra and Dr. Wayne Dyer in “Wake Up–Live the Life You Love–Finding Personal Freedom”. Velma also writes a weekly e-newsletter which can be found at WelcomeChanges.com. You can contact Velma by email at velma@welcomechanges.com, or toll-free at 1-800-992-2863.